Lucky girl guide to being romanced + courted
I remember when I first began on my single girl journey after a long term relationship and having NO IDEA how to date.
In high school and college, I didn't need a guide to date. I wasn't dating intentionally back then, so it didn't really matter. I dated boys because they were hot or because they were sweet or because my unhealed trauma liked the chaos (oops haha). I wasn't really thinking "marriage". And I also wasn't a successful, embodied, wealthy woman yet.
When I began dating as an empowered, mature, successful woman, I began to realize something powerful...
I do not need a man.
I do not need a man for financial support or because I'm lonely or because I'm filling a void or because I am bored (THESE ARE NOT REASONS TO DATE).
But oh baby, do I DESIRE a man.
My desire (NOT need) for a man is potent, therefore, I date intentionally.
I hold strong standards as a high value woman, I know how to lead with pleasure, and I have a doctorate in flirting
And it is so fun to watch how men chase me, romance me, court me, and try to win me over... And it's also fun watching the men who are not a match quickly run away (thank you next).
Here are some of the ways I attract romance, and I mean the type of dreamy men who want to court, romance, pamper... We love a man in his masculine ;)
1. I am the Rolex…
Did you know you can't just walk into Rolex and buy a new watch? You have to get on the list. This Rolex in one of the richest parts of the country I visited will get ONE Rolex watch in this year. The store gets to decide who gets to buy it. They select ONE person from a list of thousands.
I believe I am the rolex. I know I am one-of-a-kind. I believe the demand to date me is high and the supply is very very limited. I know I am the prize and that is how I hold myself on dates. I use the lucky girl syndrome method to have men jaw dropped over me and my energy.
It's a wild thing... men become OBSESSED when you hold this energy. They are enthralled. When you *know* you are the prize and you've embodied deep codes of quantum transformation.
2. I flirt my way to desire
Flirting is my favorite pleasure tool to receive and it works with men, with money, and for other manifestations too!
When we are flirting, we are simply having conversation AS the version of us soaked in pleasure (aka our lucky girl).
When I am in this state of deep receiving, men love to court me.
When I am in this state, I am deeply surrendered to the process and I do NOT need *this* man to be "the one" or even a second date. Which means I can be fully present, experience him, enjoy myself, and flirt the night away.
This energy is irresistible to men.
3. I hold high standards, without demanding or nagging
I remember back in the day thinking a "good morning" text was romance LOL.
Then it became men holding car doors open for me.
Then it became fancy dinners and flowers and other beautiful things.
I let the momentum build over time.
Here is a big mistake I see a lot of women make: they mistake being bossy, demanding, nagging for holding a standard.
I never tell a man that I need him to send me flowers or he can't date me. I don't pressure men into romancing me in any way.
Instead I hold a standard, a desire like this... "gosh I just love receiving ___ from men. I love men and how they court me. It feels so good to be desired"
And because I've ingrained thoughts like that, men just do these things for me.
4. I genuinely love to receive these things and I never take it for granted. Romance is just *who I am*, so naturally I attract it.
I am intentionally dating, which means I am not looking for quantity nor a void to be filled as I date. When a man does show up for me in ways I love, I genuinely admire it and feel so grateful.
I never take for granted that someone is going out of their way to take me on a date or pick up the bill or makes me feel special and romanced. I find gratitude through this whole process. *Even when* dating can feel exhausting, I return back to gratitude and release any “bad date” before bringing that energy on to the new date.
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