The soft + successful millionaire

I was in a bikini, sipping a pina colada that I had just ordered, at a 5-star hotel {The Andaz} on the island of Maui.

'This moment feels so good', I say to myself. 

I had gone on my second one-way ticket trip to Maui solo + single, soaking up the sun, dating vacation boyfriends, and coaching my clients from my bikini.

Part of me couldn't believe this moment. I couldn't believe I was actually here and actually doing this, not once but twice! In the beginning of starting my business, I didn't really know what to expect.

My first goal was to simply just make money, any money.

My second goal was to make $2-3k per month so I could afford to live, on a budget, off of my salary (this was back before inflation hahaha).

And after a couple years of building my brand, investing in uncomfortable growth, and staying EXTREMELY patient as things felt like they were never working...

I leapt to six figures. And then invested more + more. Then leapt to multiple six figures.

And here I was enjoying a pina colada on the beach, making travel like this NORMAL. In those beginning stages, I really had no idea *if* it would work. Then I really had no idea *if* it would stay.

I remember the first six figure year feeling like a fluke. Then I hit 100k in even less time the second year.

Since that moment, my life has just kept elevating. That does not mean I haven't had my fair share of fearful times, mini-disasters, heartbreaks, hard lessons and hard conversations, because I have.

But as I began to evolve and grow, I noticed something happening. THIS business of mine was here to stay because I was devoted to it, even during the hardest and most challenging times. I realized that if I could stay committed to the overall work in times when I was buried in depression or when I was buried in a "financial hole" (which isn't even real, bc we get to just make more money), then I was meant for MORE. It's easy to stay committed when things are going really well. Think about a relationship: when you're being spoiled, connecting to that person, being romanced - it's SO easy to feel loved, but the moment there's a hard conversation or a struggle? What happens?

Here is the thing: One day, I just decided it would stay.

I stopped playing with the old belief systems, like it would all fall and I would have to get a job.

I stopped playing the story that my business was unreliable and unsustainable, because ew! Would you ever accept a job where your boss told you 'this might all fall and we can't guarantee you'll even be paid'? NO. You wouldn't. So why are you telling yourself this in your business?

I stopped worrying so much about what would happen, like the anxiously-attached partner. 

AND I STOPPED TRYING TO BE ANYONE ELSE. I stopped trying to do it their way. I decided I would find my own way, a way that felt yummy and sacral lead, but also safe and elegant and peaceful.

~ The dream of the soft + successful millionaire ~

I went through several ego deaths. I released many many many layers. I've learned many lessons. And I am certain I will do this again throughout my lifetime.

And that's when this dream finally landed.

You see, I could never really answer those questions like: "where do you see your business in 5 years or 10 years?"

I don't even know where I will be located next week!! I could be in Hawaii flying on a one-way spontaneously or packing up my car and moving to a new city. My life for so long was spontaneous AND I love that part of me. It felt like freedom! It felt like authenticity! It felt like creation and play and pleasure! Planning long-term goals felt icky and boring and stagnant. So I owned that spontaneous, fun, adventurous part of me. I didn't try to set long-term goals because I didn't want to. It wouldn't have worked anyway.

This year has been quite different for me and I did NOT expect it to be. I had this identity shift that I believe was ready to happen because I am ready for the next steps. Now this does not mean I have lost my spontaneous + adventurous side at all. It also does not mean I have the next 5 & 10 year goals planned out #nothanks.

It just means I could energetically take a deep, slow inhale and a peaceful exhale. It means that I have found the identity I want to sink my teeth into, an identity that still allows me to be in my feminine and flow and play, but this time it feels like it's wrapped in the arms of a delicious masculine presence... that inner knowing that's like 'yeah baby we're going to do this. I got you'.

Here is how the soft + successful millionaire dream was founded + how it looks to me:

I always knew what I didn't want:

I knew I would never be tied down to my laptop or so booked out I can't move from my chair. I also did not want to hustle so hard that I lost out on making memories with friends or finding love or seeing my family and being fully present. I definitely didn't want to be so worried about hitting my next goal and being "the best ever" on a pedestal, that I couldn't enjoy my time. And if you haven't guessed yet... I'm not very masculine at all. I am extremely in my feminine. I love to flow and play and lean in and lean back and all the things. So, I didn't want to be so structured + controlled that I lost connection to this.

I found what I did want:

Having a perfect visual is impossible. I have NO idea what my life will look like in the future exactly. I mean when I was making $900/ month I literally could not have guessed that at six figures I'd be single, living in a luxury building, driving a BMW. At that point, I was still pretty much brainwashed by my toxic ex + thought I was going to marry him hahaha.

But over time, I learned how I would feel. It started with simple feelings and grew over time. Just like my designer handbag collection. I started with simply a designer red lipstick, then eventually purchased a wallet, and then finally a bag... and now I have my dream collection (still working on it though hehe)

So as I decided I wanted to become the soft + successful millionaire, I knew I wanted it to feel peace. I wanted things to still flow and have the spontaneity I craved. I wanted my life to be other things than just my business and money goals. I wanted to feel playfulness and pleasure every time I created something, not pressure. 

And then the vision came to me. It felt like champagne glasses clinking:

There I was: sitting on a balcony of some 5-star hotel with the love of my life with me, as we enjoyed room service breakfast and heard the beautiful orchestra of birds enchanting us with their music.

I felt peaceful. I felt authentic. I was writing and creating and speaking to dreamy clients. My work felt intimate, exactly as it does now, just deeper.

I decide this now. 

I claim this now.

Now, I make moves to become this version of me.

I am currently a multi-six figure earner in my business and I am ready to elevate to become the self-made, soft, + successful millionaire.

And I hope you join me on this journey as I do so! <3

You can follow along! As I succeed, it means YOU succeed. I do not keep secrets. I expose it ALL. I want you to also become your six figure, multi six figure, and million dollar (and beyond) version of yourself. We walk together, goddess.

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